“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Words, have power.
I know this, as I blog, and my words help others heal and move on, so I know that words have power, and they can hurt many people, as they do.
Repeatedly being told day after day, to week after week, to month after month, to year after year, that YOU are “stupid,” “ugly,” “worthless,” “unlovable,” “fat,” “unimportant,” “evil” can take a toll on one’s psychological well-being, which in turn can have a huge impact on one’s self-esteem and how they see each other.
I know this from personal experience.
Disclaimer: This article includes affiliate links!
Note: Pick up “Empathic Warriors Survival Stories Vol. 1” and get 75% off with the discount code after signing up to The Empathic Army newsletter.
Sticks and Stones: Remembers Words Cannot Hurt You, Unless You Let Them
Verbal abuse, a silent form of abuse, much like financial abuse, can lead to people developing:
- negative self-talk, which can lead to threatening thoughts to one’s life
Narcissists and toxic people are well aware of this. They know that if they keep beating a person down verbally and having other tease and mock them, that person will most likely start to hate themselves.
We see this with kids who are bullied.
And sadly, they tease and mock that kid to take their lives.
The messed up thing about this is that they will even tease and mock the kid after they have taken their lives.
And it is for these reason why I say we must stop caring what these people say.
They will never stop being the @sswipes they are.
Narcissists and toxic people are kidults, they are the bullies in elementary who have never grown up.
And as painful a realization this may sound like, it is also a good point.
Because much like a kid who doesn’t like being ignored and who cannot stand being ignored, so too are these narcissistic, toxic people.
Developing a thick skin is necessary for living a happy life.
Without that skin, without the ability to not give a damn what others say or think of you, you will constantly be controlled, manipulated, and used by the world.
Not only this, when you do not care about the negative actions of these people towards you, you show them how irrelevant they really are.
Sticks and Stones: Don’t Value Your Worth Based On How They See You
Remember, the opposite of love is NOT hate; it’s indifference.
And I can think of no other scene in movie history that better summarizes this point.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
As much as blogs may help to shed light on your situation, or support groups can be enlightening, nothing beats professional help.
Consider giving therapy a try. With my affiliate link you get 20% off your first month session.