“Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents. They promote fusion, a blurring of personal boundaries, a welding together of family members. On an unconscious level, it is hard for family members to know where one ends and another begins. In their efforts to be close, they often suffocate one another’s individuality.”― Susan Forward
The empath child narcissistic parent dynamic is a relationship that destroys great and beautiful souls. The psychological abuse that young kids go through with their narcissistic parents is the stuff of nightmares.
We know that the minds and psyches of kids that grow up in toxic households have the same brain scans as soldiers who have been to war.
The adverse effects do not just stop with damaged brain scans. Kids who grow up in these households also, later on, develop a myriad of mental illnesses.
Mental illnesses/ and life issues such as:
- Depression (Yes depression is a mental disease, it is not a feeling of extreme sadness)
- Extremely Low Self Esteem
- Feelings of Inadequacies
- Trouble making new relationships
In this article, I want to explain the empath child narcissistic parent dynamic, how one can recover from these relationships, and what one needs to do to keep these parents at bay.
What Is The Empath Child Narcissistic Parent Dynamic
The empath child narcissistic parent dynamic is a relationship that leads to the child developing several mental and social issues later on in life.
A child who grows up in this household always thinks they are not good enough do feel that they must always please everyone around them.
These children usually have an extremely poor understanding of their individual selves as they see themselves as puppets or tools for their parents.
What Are Some Habits Empath Kids Develop As A Result Of Growing Up With A Narcissistic Parent(s)
- People Pleasing
- Being Emotionally Intuitive
- Feeling That Their Feelings Do Not Matter
- Engages In Negative Self-Talk
- Apologizes For Everything
- Blames Themselves For Everything
- Think They Must Be Perfect
- Minimizes Their Emotions
- Afraid To Talk To Others
- Taking On Other People Problems
- Represses Emotions
- Isolates Themselves
How Does One Heal From Narcissistic Parents?
The best way to heal from a narcissistic parent’s upbringing is by walking away.
The simple and harsh truth is that narcissistic parents do not care or love their kids.
To them, they brought you into this world, and you are their property. They have the right to say and do to you what they want.
You are just an extension of them, and they have every right to use you as they see fit.
There are too many stories of people trying to make it work with their parents because they think deep down they can reach them.
But the truth is that these people do not care about anyone but themselves, and they will continue to lie, cheat, use, hurt, and manipulate their children as long as they stay in their lives.
The only way to heal as an empath child is to leave the toxic household.
Imagine this, a person growing up near Chernobyl, with radiation being a severe issue.
Some people have gotten used to the toxic area because it is something in their DNA that allows them to absorb the toxic radiation.
But then some people cannot deal with that atmosphere.
To stay because those toxic people need them in their lives for their twisted reason would not benefit the sill’s person to the environment.
It would only make them sick.
Their only solution s to leave them behind and live in a less toxic area.
Teach Yourself You Are Deserving Of Love
If you want to heal, you must retrain and reframe your mind and thinking.
You are deserving of love.
You are worthy of being respected.
And you are deserving of living your best life.
Now, of course, it is easier said than done.
Years of psychological conditioning and abuse will make you think and believe whole-hardheartedly that you are not deserving of love, but you are.
Need Support To Heal?
Post such as these are great at helping to illuminate some insight on your current situation, but these post are no substitute for professional help.
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is:
a common type of talk therapy (psychotherapy). You work with a mental health counselor (psychotherapist or therapist) in a structured way, attending a limited number of sessions. CBT helps you become aware of inaccurate or negative thinking so you can view challenging situations more clearly and respond to them in a more effective way.Mayoclinic
It can be challenging learning how to be deserving of love and respect after growing up with narcissistic parents.
Just as much as anyone else, you are deserving of love, and it is essential to learn how to be love and accept love.
Online-Therapy is an online therapy service that offers this form of therapy along with worksheets to follow.
With my link above, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.
If therapy is not an affordable option, feel free to join our Facebook Group.
But please keep in mind that a professional therapist is much more helpful than a post or a Facebook Group.