In this article, I would like to talk about something that I feel is not talked about enough, and that is the doubt that many mothers face especially young mothers or women that are becoming mothers for the first time.
I struggled with a little bit of postpartum depression after both of my children were born, and I remember having a lot of anxiety that something was going to go wrong or they would get sick, and I wouldn’t know how to handle the situation.
When my oldest was born, my anxiety was more about how I would raise her and help her become the right person, not so much about the day to day responsibilities of being a mother.
At the time of her infancy, I was in relatively good health. I was young and fit and felt capable of caring for her daily.
I knew I wouldn’t have any trouble changing diapers or feeding her, or bathing her, but I was very unsure of my ability to raise her and help her become a successful member of society.
The Doubt That Mothers Have About Being A Mom
My daughter just turned eleven, and sometimes I still doubt myself.
After my son was born, it was like the situation, and my thought processes were reversed.
My health was declining, and I felt much less sure of my ability to care for an infant daily.
For whatever reason, I wasn’t as concerned about my ability to raise my son and help him grow into an honorable young man. I was much more concerned about making it through each day successfully.
My pregnancy with my son was harder on me than my pregnancy with my daughter, and I ended up needing a cesarean section with my son.
So, right from the very beginning, things were more challenging this time around.
My son had colic the first three months of his life, and then when he was three months old, my symptoms for my autoimmune disease began. The first year of my son’s life was very challenging for our entire family.
I spent a lot of time with doctors going through testing and had a tough time keeping up with my parents’ responsibilities.
Every single day I doubted myself and wasn’t sure how I would make it through that day, but somehow, every single day, I managed and pushed through.
Many mothers, whether they are younger or older, become mothers for the first time or are having their fifth child, doubt themselves.
I think this is something that all parents deal with; it’s just not very widely discussed. I hope this changes and women can feel more comfortable opening up and sharing their insecurities and vulnerabilities.
This would be beneficial, especially if the older women would be more vulnerable to younger mothers. It’s so important to take care of yourself as a parent.
The better you care for yourself, the better you will be able to care for your children, and one way we can help support, encourage, and care for one another is through being vulnerable.
Written by: Brittany Nicole Lewis
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