Abusive and toxic relationships are something quite puzzling to the outsider. When the abuse is so evident, you may wonder, why would someone stay?
The most prominent reason that someone would stay is that those relationships are highly addictive. Actually addictive, because of intermittent reinforcement (inconsistent rewarding).10 Reasons Why We Stay in Toxic Relationships
Leaving an emotionally abusive relationship can be difficult for a variety of reasons. It is not only because people become addicted to the narcissist but for financial reasons (financial abuse), child-related reasons, and emotional reasons.
I often write that NOT fighting for these relationships is the only way to live your life stress-free and happily. To stay with toxic narcissistic people will cause you a myriad of mental illnesses.
In this article, I want to express WHY you should NOT try and hope for a healthy relationship with a narcissistic, toxic person.
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Can An Abusive Relationship Become Healthy?
The answer to this is NO!
An abusive relationship can never be healthy because abuse is not healthy!
Love never requires that a person suffer to be loved by someone.
Love Corinthians 1-13 King James
1 – Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2 – And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3 – And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4 – Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 – Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 – Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 – Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 – Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 – For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 – But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 – When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 – For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 – And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
Leave The Abusive Relationship
I wrote an article titled “8 Reasons Why You Should Not Fix A Broken Relationship,” In that article, I explain what we lose from trying to work on these abusive broken relationships.
It can be challenging to make a relationship work out, especially when you have given so many years, or maybe even decades of your life.
To leave and just walk away can feel like we wasted so much of our time and life.
And that may be true.
But to remain in a relationship with these people and try to make it work or healthy will only continue to waste your time and life.
There are plenty of good guys out there and amazing women out there who will love you for who you are and will offer you that healthy relationship that you so justly deserve.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you have to consider what you are getting out of the relationship?
Once you sit down and ask yourself this, you will discover they are offering you nothing of worth, and the only thing to do is to walk away and live your life without them in it.
Suppose you need emotional support or seeking professional help from an abusive relationship. In that case, Online Therapy (Sign up with my affiliate link to get 20% off your first-month session) is a good option.
Blogs, online support groups, and even meetups are good steps in recovery, but nothing beats professional help.